Lieberman Presents on Financial Changes to Divorce at NJICLE

(Iselin, N.J.) – Ronald G. Lieberman Esq., a partner at Cooper Levenson and chair of the Family Law Practice Group, will present “The Financial Aspects of Divorce in 2019 and Beyond: Strategies for a Whole New Ballgame.” The session is part of the day-long New Jersey Institute of Continuing Legal Education (NJICLE) program held at the Marriott Delta Hotel, 515 U.S. Highway 1 S. Iselin, N.J. on Monday, Nov. 25, 2019 from 1:15 p.m. to 5 p.m.

“Last year’s Tax Cut and Jobs Act, coupled with the 2014 alimony reform, has forced family law attorneys to revisit their approaches to achieve satisfactory financial settlements for their clients,” noted Lieberman. “It requires a nuanced understanding of how these changes interact to impact the financial outcomes in family law cases.”

Lieberman understands the intricacies of matrimonial and family law, and appears regularly before the Family Court in Atlantic, Burlington, Camden, Cumberland, Gloucester, and Salem Counties. He also practices before the Superior Court – Appellate Division. He has litigated on virtually all aspects of family law including property settlement agreements, equitable distribution, alimony, child support, custody, college expenses, and counsel fees.

In addition, Lieberman is involved in positions of leadership in the Camden County and New Jersey State Bar Associations. He serves as the Executive Editor of the New Jersey Family Lawyer and as a Member of the New Jersey Supreme Court Family Practice Committee. He serves regularly as a Matrimonial Early Settlement Panelist in Burlington and Camden Counties. He is certified in matrimonial law as set forth by the Supreme Court of New Jersey.

At the NJICLE program, Lieberman will serve as moderator for a panel discussion featuring the Hon. Lawrence R. Jones, JSC (ret.), Cheryl E. Connors, Esq., Robert A. Epstein, Esq. and Thomas J. Hoberman, CPA/ABV/CFF.

Cost for the program is $265. CLE credit is available. To register, call (732) 214-8500 or visit

Stock Awards in a Divorce: Yours? Mine? It Depends…..

Oftentimes, you or your spouse receive stock awards from the employer. Those shares will vest over a period of years as opposed to all at once. The question then becomes, what happens to the stock awards which vest after a divorce complaint has been filed if the vesting depends upon you or your spouse’s efforts on the job after the filing? We know have an answer for you. The answer is…it depends.

A recent case from the Appellate Division now tells lawyers that they can argue that if the award was made during the marriage that their clients can keep them free and clear of the spouse’s claim if that stock was issued in whole or in part for future performance. In other words, the stock award must be made for services performed after the complaint for divorce was filed, for future services, and not a deferred compensation for prior efforts.

If you have stock awards, or you believe your spouse has them, you should find out if the stock was intended to vest due to future services and not prior services by looking at the stock plan and find out if the stock grants were designed to maintain a long term interest by the employee in the overall success of the company. Or, you need to determine whether the stock was intended to vest through mere continued employment without consideration of you or your spouse’s level of proficiency.

Self-Defeating Tweeting (and other social media pitfalls)

It’s too bad there isn’t some Miranda-type warning before posting on social media, something along the lines of: what you post online can and will be used against you in a (family) court of law. It seems elementary but it bears repeating: be careful what you post—whether it’s on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, or even in text messages and emails. Messages and postings frequently end up being used in court filings and even during trials.

I have been involved in many cases where social media postings contribute to the undoing of a client’s case or the opposing party’s case. For example, if a parent claims he or she cannot afford to pay child support but posts on social media outlets about his or her vacations, meals out, and extravagant expenditures, it will undermine that person’s credibility. Incriminating online postings in cohabitation cases by an alimony recipient are also common social media pitfalls. If the alimony recipient claims he or she is not, for example, in a relationship recognized in the couple’s social and family circle (one of the factors for a finding of cohabitation, see N.J.S.A.  2A:34-23), but Facebook is littered with photos of family holiday celebrations, trips, and birthdays, with the new significant other, this information can and will be used against the alimony recipient in court and potentially hurt his or her case.

Another thing to keep in mind is whatever you text or email can end up in a court filing. Does it matter, legally, that ex-spouses/partners trade barbs via text message? Probably not. But, it does not paint the acrimonious and hostile party in a good light for the Court, and Judges are human, too. A party with reasonable positions and a credible and calm demeanor can be undermined by the other party introducing ugly and expletive-filled text messages.

Many clients ask “can he/she ACTUALLY use this stuff against me?” The answer is—absolutely. So, be careful.

10 Basic Rules of Testifying


While this may seem like a rather obvious rule, the majority of witnesses have a hard time following the rule’s simple instruction. Most of the time, witnesses are nervous and will be more inclined to simply “hear”, instead of “listen” to each question.

A helpful technique to be sure you are listening to each question is to repeat the question in your head. If you cannot repeat the question in your head, then you either did not hear the question or you have forgotten the question. In this case, you can certainly request that the attorney repeat the question.


None of us like to look ignorant, especially when put on the spot in front of a soon-to-be-ex-spouse. Consequently, witnesses often attempt to answer a question without having a full and complete understanding of the question.

Make sure you fully understand each question before you attempt to answer.


Once you have listened to the question, answer only that question and do not offer any additional information.

Never answer a question by asking a question.

Do not be evasive with your answers.


Witnesses are not under any particular time limit to answer questions that are posed to them. Take your time when answering.


It is understandable that you are not going to like the other attorney. It is also understandable that some of your animosity towards that other attorney may wear off on your other witnesses. There has never been a recorded circumstance where a party has convinced the opposing counsel during cross-examination that their position is the right one. It just does not happen. The attorney on the other side is never going to agree with your position no matter how eloquently you plead your case. So don’t bother trying.


The purpose of a trial is to reach the truth. A guess, even if it is an educated guess, is not the truth. It is perfectly acceptable to answer “I don’t know” or “I don’t recall.”


Be very careful in your answers to avoid using absolutes such as “always,” “never,” “all,” and “every”, unless you are absolutely sure it is the right answer. Lawyers will jump on those absolutes whenever they can, and they will make you look silly. It can be hard to remember every last thing that you have said, done and seen in your life. It is better to say “I don’t believe so” or “I do not recall that” rather than “I never said that” or “that never happened.” Additionally, it is almost always better for you to leave yourself open by responding “to the best of my recollection” or “that is all I can remember at this time.”


As shocking as it may seem, sometimes witnesses do not tell the truth.

Honesty, simplicity and sincerity go a long way with the Court. Evading questions or telling fantastical stories will only hurt you.

If you know that there was a time that you behaved badly, it is better to own up to it openly and honestly, accept responsibility for your actions, acknowledge the consequences, and be remorseful.

Rule 9: BE ON TIME

Being prompt shows responsibility and the importance that you place on the issues at hand.


You should dress for court as if you are going to church to or to an important business meeting.

Be very cautious about making jokes or sarcastic comments, in the courtroom or even out in the hall. Some people use humor to calm themselves or to “lighten” the situation, but in Family Court it will usually come across as inappropriate.

It is perfectly acceptable to show appropriate emotions. If you start to cry, do not get angry at yourself. Take a moment to collect yourself. If you need to take a break, it is acceptable to request a few minutes. Do not let your emotions get out of control, but appropriate emotional responses tend to show sincerity and lend credibility to the testimony.

Is enforcing payment under religious agreement a “double-dip” if alimony is also awarded?

Written by Daria B. Janka, Esq. & Cynthia N. Grob, Esq.

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American Courts increasingly must deal with how to treat shari’ah law in divorce proceedings.

To quote a Mhar Agreement: “This is a prompt Mahr: One gold coin, sum of money and jewelry to be given prior to marriage, sum of money deferred and to be paid upon the divorce of the parties. This contract is to be governed by Islamic Law.”

Did you know that the First Amendment might not preclude a Court from enforcing a Mahr agreement? How far have the Courts gone on to treat the agreement as a valid prenuptial agreement, or to nullify it, or to incorporate it as part of the equitable distribution division of the assets?

Mahr agreements are Islamic religious agreements entered into prior to marriage and are governed by Shari’ah law.  For many Muslims the Shari’ah is more than “law” it includes the methodology and process of ascertaining divine meaning and as such forms the moral and legal anchor of a Muslim’s existence.  In all interactions, under Shari’ah, a Muslim is governed by the same degree of honesty, good faith, an eye to fairness, social responsibility, and equity essentially they are to live an ethical life seeking to please God.

Many times Mahr agreements contain all elements of a secular contract between the parties.  Mahr is not a dower because it does not involve the bride’s father paying the groom but rather the groom must pay a price for the woman.  If they do not agree to a price, one will be determined by the Court.  In the bluntest terms, in the Islamic world, marriage is more of a contract than a sacrament. Islam emphasizes orthopraxis rather than orthodoxy and theology. The difficulty lies where a particular religion has developed an extensive system of laws.  Those laws govern marriage and divorce, alike.  Under New Jersey jurisprudence, it is a basic established principle that “a contract is a set of promises for the breach of which the law gives a remedy, or performance of which the law in some way recognizes as a duty.” Reinstatement (Second) of Contracts § 1 (1979).

The questions our Courts are faced with are what are Mahr agreements, what did the parties agree to, and is their contract enforceable?  Is a Mahr a prenuptial agreement?  Is it a simple contract?

In the New Jersey case of Odatalla v. Odatalla, 355 N.J. Super 305 (2002), the Court applied a two-prong test to determine whether a religious agreement is enforceable during divorce proceedings. Namely, is the contract: (1) capable of specific performance under “neutral principles of law” and (2) once those “neutral principles of law” are applied, does the agreement in question meet the state’s standards for those principles?  The trial court enforced the dower provision holding that applying neutral principles of law (i.e., the principals of contract law in New Jersey), the Mahr agreement satisfied the all of the elements of a valid civil contract. The court used the evidence adduced from a period prior to the contract to interpret the meaning of the words of the contract and concluded that the ten thousand dollar deferred portion of the Mahr was due upon the dissolution of the marriage under the contract. It is important to note that the Court equitably  distributed marital property, assets and debt and made findings as to alimony in the matter.

This New Jersey Court decision closely followed the New York Court decision in the case of Avitzur v. Avitzur, 58 N.Y.2d 108  (N.Y. 1993) addressing Jewish marital agreement. In Avitzur, the Court held there was nothing in law or public policy that prevented judicial recognition and enforcement of the secular terms of a religious marriage agreement because there was no excessive entanglement between church and state when the court applied neutral principles of contract law to decide the case.  This approach is consistent with Jones v. Wolf, 443 U.S. 595, 9 S. Ct. 3020 (1979) which explained that the “neutral principles of law” approach that allows agreements to be enforced based upon neutral principles of law as opposed to religious doctrine.

This approach, however, could run afoul of the parol evidence rule, which bars the introduction of extrinsic evidence to clarify the meaning of a contract, and is in essence rewriting agreements. The parol evidence rule of contract law stands for the principle that parol evidence cannot be introduced to create, vary or contradict a term of a contract not otherwise present in the written agreement. The overreaching use of parol evidence undermines the certainty of the contract and invites problems with the statute of frauds, which requires agreements to be in writing in order to be enforceable. The Odatalla Court, however, used an exception of the parol evidence rule, which stands for the preposition that evidence can be introduced to interpret the meaning of the written words of a contract.

            To avoid unnecessary confusion with regard to agreements which are likely to be enforced, you may want to contact an attorney to determine whether additional language should be included in your religious contract to avoid “double dipping”. We are taking the time to write about this to show you that entering into an agreement for religious purpose is far from a trivial question. You must understand how a religious agreement may affect your future rights. We, at Cooper Levenson, P.A., have earned a recognition as a specialized and experienced law firm in the representation of  clients in various areas, including contract and family law. 

Divorce Lawyers Know: One Size Does Not Fit All

by Ronald G. Lieberman, Esq.

As a family law/divorce attorney, I must be sensitive to my client’s backgrounds (cultural, economic, religious to name a few) . I must be sensitive to the fact that people from different cultures or religions may have a different view of marriage and divorce. I must listen to what you as the client are saying and also try to put things into the context of where you are from. Some divorces are not only about money and children but also about face and honor.

It’s up to me as the attorney to explain to clients what to expect based upon the legal system but also understand that the expectations of someone from one religious or cultural background may be different from that of another racial, ethnic, or religious background. I need to explain to clients that the legal system cannot solve one’s family problems.

I need to be sure to discuss whether to use the typical holidays or one of significance to someone who may be Islamic, Jewish, Hindu, or from some other religion with different holidays.  

You as the client should know that settlements are not be one-size-fits-all but should be based upon your particular needs and background. If you are worried about your child being removed from the United States and taken to another country where it will be impossible for the return of your child, then it is imperative to take protective measures. These issues should be explored carefully. If there is a religious aspect of a divorce such as an Islamic decree or a Jewish divorce or Get, these issues should be negotiated and put into writing so that there are no problems later on. Issues such as the religious upbringing of children and their schooling should be dealt with as well. If there is an issue of travel abroad with a child or children where there is family in another country, these issues should be covered. If there are issues involving a Green Card or citizenship or visas, it is important to find out the implications and deal with them. Sometimes it is important to have an opinion or intervention from an immigration attorney as well.

 Divorce is difficult, painful, and confusing, to say the least. If the client and I step back and work together, we can make the experience a little less painful.

Don’t Pay Your Lawyer For This

By: Alexandra K. Rigden, Esq.

Law is a business. So, this blog is actually against my financial interests because I am here to tell you what you should NOT pay your family law attorney to do:

  1. Referee day-to-day, ordinary parenting disputes: Fighting through lawyers over day-to-day, ordinary parenting disputes, can come with a high price tag, both emotionally and financially. When I say “day-to-day, ordinary parenting disputes”, I’m talking about, for example, mom feeding the kids non-organic instead of organic hot dogs; dad returning the children a few minutes late from parenting time; objections by one parent to other parent getting the child a haircut without prior consent—the list goes on and on. Parents will have to co-parent with each other long after the lawyers are gone. Sending the message during the litigation that day-to-day parenting decisions cannot be navigated without lawyers engenders acrimony and unnecessary fees. To the extent possible, parents should pick up the phone and try to figure it out.
  1. Act as your therapist: In the course of family law representation, I learn a lot about a client’s life. I may learn why their marriage broke up, why their kids are estranged from them, how their new relationship is going, how much they earn, and other personal—sometimes very personal—facts. Naturally, conversations transition from facts to feelings. As much as I do enjoy getting to know clients and understand the very human element to family law, I am a counselor at law, not a counselor at life. Moreover, in comparing hourly rates, most family lawyers are more expensive than therapists.
  1. Fight about ordinary personal property: I’m not talking about a Van Gogh painting or a Cartier watch…those items may well be worth the fight. I’m talking about tables, chairs, bed frames, mattresses, pots, pans…ordinary household items. Once these items were brought home they drastically depreciated in value. Your five-year-old mattress isn’t going to have much, or any, value on the open market. Paying lawyers to fight over ordinary personal property is not a wise use of your money.

4. Advise you about taxes and finances: I am not an accountant nor am I a financial advisor. Tax returns, tax issues, and finances are a daily part of a matrimonial practice. But, simply because a client’s finances are part of the equation, does not mean that a family lawyer is qualified to offer advice on them.

The New Tax Law and Alimony

by Ronald G. Lieberman, Esq.

The new tax bill signed into law by President Trump earlier this month will modify the tax treatment on alimony, on the federal level, starting January 1, 2019. But, that same situation may not be true on the state level in New Jersey unless the law is changed between now and then.

Presently, alimony is treated as income by the recipient so he or she has to include it as taxable income to him or her and treated as a tax deduction by the payor so he or she can write off a portion of it. But, starting January 1, 2019, divorce agreements or divorce judgments which include alimony will no longer be tax affected on the federal level, so the includability/deductability of it will be lost.

New Jersey tax laws do not automatically roll with federal tax law, so unless the state’s tax code is changed between now and January 1, 2019, recipients and payors of alimony will be required to continue the tax treatment of alimony on state tax returns even after that federal law removes it.

Recipients and payors need to keep in touch with a family lawyer who can advise him or her on the rapidly changing family law environment.

Parenting Plans

Divorce is an emotional process. As parents begin to develop a parenting plan, the need for flexibility and responsibility are important in creating options that consider the child first.

An effective parenting plan maximizes the child’s emotional security. It also needs to work well for both the child and the parents, and develop as the child grows up.

While many people are interested to know what constitutes as an effective parenting plan, the answer will vary depending on the parents. The process of getting to the agreement can be effective if approached in a positive, cooperative way. Parents should approach the parenting agreement as parents rather than as parties to a divorce/separation action.

It may seem easier said than done to create an effective yet flexible parenting agreement, especially in the midst of the divorce process. Appropriate professionals may be able to offer options that have not yet been considered while facilitating a discussion about each option’s practicality.

Working with a mediator is another option where parents make their own decisions, rather than have a third party make binding decisions about their family.

Here are five questions for parents to consider when developing a parenting plan:

  1. How will the plan work for this child?
  2. Does the plan maximize this child’s emotional security?
  3. Does the plan maximize stable care-giving?
  4. Is the plan stage age appropriate?
  5. Is the plan practical (times, locations, travel, exchange, venues)?

Grey Divorce: Will you still need me when I’m 64?

Gray Divorce.jpgAny divorce is fraught with pitfalls but divorces when the parties are older have some which warrant attention.

Beneficiaries of life insurance and retirement assets needs to be changed upon a divorce, to the extent permitted by any agreement or decree. Wills and trusts in effect need to be revoked and then rewritten as well as any powers of attorney. There is an interplay between Medicaid and divorce which needs to be discussed including that married couples generally cannot exceed $2000 in non exempt assets in most cases.

All in all, any individual going through a divorce should consult with an attorney, but for senior citizens, the need to have experienced counsel is made all the more important because of the complex life decisions which they face sooner rather than later.

Ronald G. Lieberman, Esquire