In a previous post, our blog discussed how even though the idea of executing a prenuptial agreement prior to getting married may seem like a like an unromantic and uncomfortable notion, it can end up paying real dividends in the event of a divorce.
That’s because a legally binding prenuptial agreement sets forth very clear instructions concerning such important matters as property division and alimony. This means spouses can protect their hard-earned assets and ensure they don’t become saddled with the debts of their ex, while also laying the foundation for a relatively smooth divorce.
Of course, even recognizing the benefits of a prenuptial agreement, it can nevertheless prove to be a difficult subject to broach with a soon-to-be significant other. In today’s post, we’ll take a brief look at some tips offered by experts for having a productive discussion about prenuptial agreements.
Make sure it’s an active dialogue, not a monologue
Experts encourage those people bringing the subject of a prenuptial agreement up with their soon-to-be significant other for the first time to make sure they frame it as a discussion, not a demand. Given the stakes involved, it’s important for both sides to weigh in with their opinion.
Stay constructive and be willing to listen
In keeping with the last point, experts encourage people bringing the subject of a prenuptial agreement up for the first time to be careful not to adopt a defensive posture, but rather to remain calm and really listen to everything their future spouse has to say about the matter.
Then, rather than simply reacting out of frustration, anger or some other emotion, they urge them to ask questions about any concerns or objections their future spouse may have voiced in order to foster a more constructive dialogue.
Be open and honest
Just as important as listening, say experts, is being forthright and honest. When people bringing the subject of a prenuptial agreement up for the first time take this approach, they can give their future spouse insight into their motivation and build much-needed trust moving forward.
Be willing to bookmark the issue
Finally, experts indicate that people need to remember that it’s okay to revisit the topic if the discussion is not proceeding especially well and is heading toward a fight. Nothing will be accomplished unless both parties are relaxed and willing to talk constructively.
Consider speaking with an experienced attorney if you would like to learn more about your rights and options as they relate to prenuptial agreements.
Source: Business Insider, “How to ask for a prenup without causing a breakup,” Libby Kane, Sept. 23, 2014